Back to School: This is Frustrating, but I Can Roll with It
Jennifer Lewis is a Licensed School Psychologist who has a background in community mental health. Currently she is an Elementary School Psychologist and works within the Maple Heights City School District. Jennifer’s areas of specialization include early childhood development, social emotional learning, and anxiety. She works with families on a daily basis and is often their first point of contact with the school system as she walks them through the special education process. Jennifer co-leads live discussions with fellow School Psychologists discussing topics, providing resources, and answering questions through a new social media platform coined #AskASchoolPsych.
This is the time of year where we collectively begin our “Back to School” preparations as the summer comes to an end. As an educator my experience this time of year involves preparing for work and getting my son ready for the upcoming year. Every year usually involves school clothes shopping, purchasing school supplies, establishing a routine as we transition back into our school year structure, setting intentions, and getting motivated for the year ahead. However, this year feels very different. So far, 2020 has been a year flooded with new experiences, panic, adjustments, disappointments, and unknowingly has been a catalyst for creative thinking.
Just a few months ago, as a parent and as an educator the world as I knew it turned upside down. I made attempts to juggle working from home all while enforcing virtual learning for my elementary-aged child. I’m sure I experienced the same frustrations as many parents who were working from home. In the beginning things felt chaotic, uncomfortable, and ineffective. It took me a few weeks, but over time I found the following to be most helpful in my household:
Setting Boundaries
I spent time teaching my son internet safety and appropriate behavior for video calls. We discussed the importance of engaging in minimal interruptions as I held my virtual meetings for work. I also had to set boundaries for myself, by being realistic with my remote work productivity.
Creating a Visible Schedule
I collaborated with my son to combine his daily morning routine and his school schedule. We hung my son's schedule on his bedroom wall so that he could reference it throughout the day. At the start of each week we reviewed the assignments due for that week. I assisted my son with creating post-it notes for each day that listed the assignments/readings he needed to complete each day. He crossed off each assignment as he completed them, in order to stay organized.
Setup a Student Work Area
With my son’s input, we agreed on a work station location in our home. His work area consists of a desk, a work stool, a cool background (a way to express his personality in the background of his virtual chats), and school supplies (pencils, markers, notebooks, etc).
Be Flexible
At home our motto during times of difficulty is as follows: “This is frustrating, but I can roll with it”. I often try to model this in our everyday life. For example, one day earlier this year, my car battery died and my car would not start as I attempted to begin my day. I took the time to say our motto, took some deep breaths, and then made the necessary phone calls to get help. The same applies now as we shift to using and understanding virtual classrooms. We must be open to new ways of thinking and maintain composure when faced with challenges.
Engage in Self Care
We can’t forget to take time for ourselves and more importantly encourage our children/students to develop self-care strategies. This could be as simple as deep breathing, listening to our favorite song, journaling, drawing a picture with your child, or even taking a nap! Get active. Take some time for yoga and/or meditation.
Home-School Connections
It is so important that we as parents communicate our needs and concerns with our child’s educational team. If it has not already been done, make a request to schedule a 1:1 virtual meet and greet with your child’s new teacher. Touch base with your child’s teacher so that you know the standards or teaching goals for each week. Know that you have the right to reach out to your school team if you have concerns with your child’s progress (they may even offer intervention support).
As we prepare for the year ahead, I plan to continue utilizing these helpful tools and it is my hope that it will be a blessing to you. Be well!